tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8338170032934009913.post8678140150445673920..comments2023-02-28T04:24:05.081-08:00Comments on This End Upside Down: Thoughts as I Attempt to Move Through the Grieving ProcessLydia Elizabeth Burnwellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05081888797720807169noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8338170032934009913.post-45900311324422984332011-05-11T21:15:16.223-07:002011-05-11T21:15:16.223-07:00I believe she had been thinking about her last &qu...I believe she had been thinking about her last "retirement" over the last few years. She often reflected about how long she had been on this earth and how tired she was of struggling to get up and move around. She continued on though, until she was confident her children were capable of taking care of themselves. She got to see a whole new generation started with her 2 great-grandchildren and she loved them dearly. She loved each one of us in her own, unselfish way. It she had been selfish, she would have given up a long time ago. Not her! She wouldn't go on until she was assured that everyone could get along without her. <br /> When we were fortunate enough to have her live with us, I often saw her talking to God through prayer. I'm sure she talked to Him about her "retirement." What she said, we will never know! I seem to think she had things worked out because she had always put so much thought and preparation into things soon to come.<br /> I know she didn't want to leave us; however, she had fulfilled her ambitions and considered her life complete. Ultimately, she was more concerned about us than she was about herself. She was a remarkable woman that we all learned so much from and loved so very much. <br /> My prayer is that we can all lead productive lives from here forward while remembering those that have gone on before us. We can honor her by drawing closer to each other and letting the love that they (Lee and Dora) started to continue to grow and expand throughout this family. May God bless us all!<br /><br />Ricky BAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8338170032934009913.post-28857465769149643652011-05-11T11:40:16.430-07:002011-05-11T11:40:16.430-07:00It is too bad that she chose not to communicate ab...It is too bad that she chose not to communicate about her health and her decisions but, ultimately, it was HER choice. We just have to accept that she thought she was making the best choices for herself and everyone else concerned. AS far as your question about whether she returned to God in time or not......from what I gather it is NEVER too late. "The first shall be last and the last shall be first" if I remember correctly.<br />If you can, celebrate that you had her for as long as you did and try not to drive yourself around the bend with the questions for which there are no answers. It is what it is.<br />Peace and blessings!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8338170032934009913.post-64397319760713937402011-05-11T11:32:21.758-07:002011-05-11T11:32:21.758-07:00I think my mother was ready to go because the last...I think my mother was ready to go because the last few months she live one day at a time and she seem to be Happy with that. She also knew she good leave her famiy behind. We will never know why she didn't want to take mediciation to prolong her life. Cause God reach out in her peaceful ness and she took his hand and left us.I looked at it like this because its easier to accept it taht why. Love her Dauthger Lori Ann Smith.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8338170032934009913.post-62340512770719518462011-05-11T10:03:54.902-07:002011-05-11T10:03:54.902-07:00I have to wonder if we are better off not knowing ...I have to wonder if we are better off not knowing where our loved ones have gone. Our uncertainty of their eternal future can often be the motivation we need to lead a better Christian life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com